Photo source: Facebook
Ah, wells... Here we are again on the subject of love. Hello again, my readers. Life has been pretty busy. I had some time scrolling through Facebook tonight and came across this post and I felt like blogging about it. It is, after all, what everyone has in mind in one way or another. So, to wait or not to wait? That is the question.
Maybe because I recently turned 21, so this subject resurface on my mind from time to time. I am eligible to date now. (Church rules. Long story. Don't ask. Or rather, asked me privately. =P) Or maybe because the older generation are teasing me on this subject. One way or another, this subject cannot be avoided for long. It is bound to surface one way or another.
For me, I have to agree with that photo. Love IS worth the wait. When the right time comes, Mr. or Ms. Right will come along and there it is - the perfect love. One might ask, when is the right time and who is the right one? On this, I can offer no answer. You just know. But there are a few guidelines here which are given to me from the older generation and through reading books.
1. Financially stable
Yes, the money talk. I have heard some stories about couples breaking up over financial issues. How can one focus on building a relationship when the issue of where your next meal is coming from is constantly on your mind? It's as simple as that. The phrase "no money, no talk" really comes into good use here. Money can't buy everything, yes. But without money, you simply can't survive. You have to first be able to take care of yourself only you can think about taking care of others.
2. Maturity
I do have to admit, I was and sometimes still am very much affected by the fairytale love the media portray these days. Many a times we look at a couple being all lovey dovey in public and we will go "ahhh... so romantic...", we don't think about what happens behind close doors. It takes a certain level of maturity to handle a relationship. I mentioned this in an earlier post: The joy of intimacy is the reward of commitment. That's from a book called "I kissed dating goodbye" by Pastor Joshua Harris. What is commitment? Not everybody understands that. Hence, maturity. To understand commitment, you have to go through some life lessons and there is where you grow to become a mature, responsible adult.
I did say I would mention a few guidelines and I could go on and on and on and on. But I will just stop here for now. The point here is that it doesn't hurt to wait. It might be agonising, I know. I, too, sometimes wonder when is the right time and who is the right person. I get depressed (I call this the "Singlehood Syndrome") sometimes when I see people around me getting into relationships. But I know this the season for me to be single and to wait.
Pastor Joshua Harris wrote: The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing. Which I think is very wise. Why should I get my heart broken over and over again when all I have to do is just wait and my heart will never be broken? Patience is the keyword here. Just wait and the best shall be given to you.
Of course this is just what I believe in. This is what I like to call my "little philosophy". Some might think it's nonsense. Well, I think it makes sense. Don't we all always save the best for last? I believe firmly on God's promises to me and I know that if it's His will, I will meet Mr. Right at the right time.
While waiting, I shall go and see the world. Enjoy the freedom of being single. Life is short and I won't be young forever. Before I settle down, I would like to experience what the world has to offer me. Go have fun. Travel around. See the world.
Love is worth the wait. =)
God bless you all. =)
To start this off, I don't understand what you mean by to wait or not to wait. Are you referring to sex? Or are you referring to the act of getting into a relationship? If it's sex, then yes. Waiting is always good until you are ready. But if you meant the later, then I have to disagree. If you wait and wait and wait, how will you ever know who the right one is? If you don't give love a chance, how can it blossom? You contradict yourself with romantic films being just a fairytale, but then saying you want to wait for Mr. Right. How will you know if Mr. Right is Mr. Right, if you do not give someone the chance to be that person? Mr. Right doesn't just appear, you have to give him the chance to be Mr. Right. Love doesn't just blossom out of nothing. Everything starts with a spark of interest, consent, before it fully develops into something beautiful. But if you're going to be stopping at interest each and every time, you will never find Mr. Right.
ReplyDeleteOne thing you said is true though. If you wait, your heart will never be broken. Because what is there to break, when there isn't anything there in the first place?
Dear Anonymous,
DeleteFirst, I sincerely thank you for taking the time to read the post and reply. =)
Maybe I did not write clearly in this post. I believe that that there is a season in our lives to be single and to wait for love to come. Like, for example, when we are still students completely dependent on our parents. Getting into a relationship is not wrong. But getting into a relationship at the wrong time is, for me, not quite right. When we are in the season to be single, then, yeah, we should wait for the right time to get into a relationship. Then come the time when you are ready to take the next step then I would say go ahead and date. I agree that everyone should give love a chance. But just at the right time. What I meant to say about romantic films is that they make is all the perfect. For 2 people to be together, it takes a lot of hard work and compromises. It's not as perfect as the films portray. This is what I was trying to say.
I believe that love blossom out of friendship and friendship takes years to build. I did not mention this in my post but friendships are build during the years of being single and waiting. Like you said, when you think that is Mr. Right and you think it's the right time to take the next step, then go ahead.
What I meant to say in this post is that many people are mindlessly dating one person after another. Some people might not feel anything. But for some, they get their heart break over and over again. Why play the dating game and get your heart broken so many times when you can actually just wait a little while more, get to know more people and finally find Mr. Right?
Of course this is all very ideal and just some of my thoughts about love and relationships. I do sincerely apologise for not writing clearly. But it is nice of you to point all these out. I hope you understand my point of view in this. Feel free to drop any more questions and comments. I will try my best to answer you. Again, thank you.
God bless you. =)